No matter your age, experience, or gender… we all have a deep longing to find a Love that does not fail. From fairy tales as children (true love’s kiss), to Disney movies (happily ever after), to romantic comedies (“You had me at ‘Hello’”) – we are drawn to this idea that there is a LOVE that exists that will never fail us.
Yet, it’s often hard to believe that UNFAILING LOVE can be a reality when we see example after example of love failing all around us!
How can LOVE be so powerful that we feel like we can LEAP from a mountain and soar in the clouds but also drop us to the earth leaving us crushed?
Too often we become cynical of LOVE because we have experienced too many moments in our lives when love has failed us. Our desire for unfailing love becomes callous, and we tend to settle for lesser “expressions” of love instead of the real thing.
We use the excuses that we are:
– emotionally damaged
– cursed in love
– emotionally unavailable
– lovesick & broken
– emotionally needy and dependent
We allow our brokenness to define the love we can manage and experience on our own, yet that is not what God had in store for us.
How is it possible to deal with the failing love in this world, but hold onto the unfailing love that God promises to us?
This weekend at Journey, we will discuss this in light of our definition of “What is Love” and “Who is Love”. We conclude our series with this question “How can we experience unfailing love?”
See you this Sunday.
By Don Gentry
Make no mistake, we are all searching for a LOVE that will satisfy the longing of our souls.
Although this desire is placed in us by God, it is also the drive that prevents us from experiencing true love and settling for the cheap imitation of love that satisfies for a moment. Our strong desire for love often causes us to be selfish in our love.
We long to feel needed, wanted, desired. This is natural within every person and was there in our hearts by God. However, we often try to fill that void with a love that simply cannot fully satisfy our souls, because we settle for how love functions in our current society.
Example: If you’re emotionally needy, you’ll ultimately connect with a controlling person who shows interest in you because they need to control things and you long for someone who will be highly invested in you. This will start out in the form of “love” but later on with show its true colors that both of you entered into a relationship with selfish agendas. When one starts to buck that control and the other starts resenting how needy their partner is, love fades and resentment takes its place.
Our approach to love is naturally selfish. We have needs, desires, longings in our soul and we seek to get them filled. Similar to the “jackets” I put on last week, we view love from a “what fits me / what do I need / what do I want” approach.
What we really are looking for is a SELFLESS Love. Someone who will love us sacrificially and who always wants the best for us.
Here’s the GREATEST NEWS YOU WILL EVER HEAR… We already have that love.
God’s Love is Selfless!
The love that our souls long for comes from Him. The fulfillment we crave comes from His love expressed through Jesus Christ and indwells us through the Holy Spirit. We have the most incredible Lover of our souls who is selfless.
This is the kind of love we are able to OFFER someone else when we experience the LOVE of Jesus in our own hearts.
Ephesians 3:18 “…may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. 19 May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.”
When you and I are living in the fullness of God’s LOVE for us (the width, length, height, and depth), we are able to GIVE THAT SAME LOVE TO SOMEONE ELSE.
Think about it… God gave us the greatest gift we could imagine by giving us the ability to LOVE someone else the way that He loves them in this time and space on earth. The opportunity I have to LOVE my wife and show her how much God loves her through my Love is available 24/7.
I just have to be experiencing it for myself first. I have to be so fulfilled by God’s love that my selfish needs, desires, and wants are overcome by the fullness of His Love for me.
When I can experience that kind of LOVE, then I’m able to choose to love others with a SELFLESS LOVE!
Join us this Sunday (VALENTINES DAY!) as we continue with the question “Who is Love?” in our message series.
By Matt Dawson
What is love? I don’t know why you’re not there. I give you my love, but you don’t care. So what is right? What is wrong? Gimme a sign… What is love? Baby, don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me no more.” – Haddaway
If you’re like me, you can’t hear this song and not picture the SNL skit of the “Club Guys” moving their heads, by the neck only, to the music.
While this song has nothing to do with this coming weekend at Journey specifically, we will be asking the question, “What is LOVE?”
No matter how you personally define it, everyone is looking for love (as they see it). One of my favorite quotes is from the poet RUMI “What we all really want is love’s confusing joy.”
We use the word LOVE for many things in our lives- Relationships, feelings, strong desires, tolerance, and even a way to manipulate others. “LOVE” can be specific (“I love your eyes”) or ambiguous (“#lovewins”…. does anyone even really know what that means?)
This weekend at Journey, we will kick off the “LOVE – More Than a Feeling” Series with this question as we attempt to understand, not only how we define love, but how God defines it as well.
We might even realize that the simple question, “What is love?”, might not actually be the right question to ask if we really want to experience real love in our lives.
I hope to see you this Sunday at Jouney Church.